Is He/She the rite one for me?

Do you remember when the last time u fall in love with your partner? What is the feeling at that time? Rasa rindu bagai nak giler? Dapat dengar suara pun jadilaaaa......dapat nampak bumbung umah pun dah cukup.....tak sabarrrnya rasa nak jumpa.......etc... :-P

What is the feeling now? After all the struggle both of u have gone through....how do u feel? Why some couple start to feel sour? No chemistry anymore....no feeling anymore....etc.? Why after certain years of marriage....u start to think...."is He/She is the rite for me?"

I come out of this topics not because i have problems with my hubby....hihihih....no....no....no....don't get me wrong.....(pray will not have any of 'em :-p).....just realize that there is a lot of couple out there that struggle to find the answer of their conflicts....or might be trap in the stressful situation....i love this n3 because it's make me think and i feel that i'm learn something from it.....*wink*

One day i came across an n3 about this issues on Datin Dr. Halina blog....i think it is very  interesting and i would like to share it to everybody.....(do not worry, i'm not plagiat her n3,  i have ask permission from Datin Dr. Halina to share this info and she is very kind to give her bless.... ;-D)


HERE'S THE ANSWER :

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because:

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

**p/s : Credits to Datin. Dr. Halina for this beautiful n3.....cheers!